If I am a grouch constantly when it comes to neatness, to the point I annoy myself, is it OCD?Can it be fixed?

Real answers only pls... For example: My grandmother is definitely a neat-freak... to the point you feel like you can't touch anything when you're at her house. I feel like I'm following in her footsteps and I hate it! My boyfriend is here all the time and I'm constantly on to him about not sitting on the furniture with dirty clothes, about how I have to clean up after him, etc. But the only thing is... to most people, I don't think his behavior is as bad as I make it seem. I am sure he is acting normal, but even if he gets the table that we're eating at dirty it drives me nuts. Part of it bugs me because he's not the one who cleans it up and it's my stuff, but the other side of me wants to be like WHO CARES?! I'd rather him be here every single day dirty and making messes than not have him here at all. My house is basically spotless the majority of the time and I feel weird when things get out of place. I want to be sweet all the time, not sweat the small stuff! Is this a disorder?

If I am a grouch constantly when it comes to neatness, to the point I annoy myself, is it OCD?Can it be fixed?
Sounds like you're just a little obsessive. Everyone has their hobby and some people are just fastidious. OCD people tend to do things that are bizzare and unproductive repeatedly.
Reply:I would say more obsessive. I am bipolar and I use cleaning as a coping strategy. I clean nd clean and react just the same way as you do lol when people put things out of place etc. Its not OCD its obsessive behavior for sure but not characteristic with OCD. I would have a look at what makes you feel you have to do this, there will undoubtedly be some underlying problem that can be solved.
Reply:um idont think s o cleaniness is a good thing and if it is only you can fix it just when you cath yourself being all ocd stop appolgize and think about what triigered your ocdness but i would see a doctor if it would make you more comfortable there are like 12 steps progarms
Reply:Yes, probably. if it's to the point where it interfers with your daily life i.e. preventing you from living a "normal" life than you should probably seek advice from a docter. I developed OCBD after living with my step-mother for two years, but that's another story. I never had to seek medical help for it, but I do have tendecies an becoming a total witch too if everything isn't done to my specifications, which is really difficult when you have two teenagers a 5 yr old and an 18 mnth old.


What I have found helps allow yourself to have "messy" areas. Mine are the closets and pan cabinet, and alotted drawers. All I have to do is shut the door or close the drawer and I don't have to look at it. Also I just keep the doors to the kid's rooms closed, but I go thru and clean once a month.


If something truley annoys you let your boyfriend know but also ask him to agree to give you 15 mins of "gripe" time, which means you can rant but he dosen't have to listen, and that is to be agreed upon on both parties. Eventually he'll pick up a few habits if you stay together long enough, but after 8 yrs I still have to pick up pieces of clothing and dirty socks under the bed. For 6 yrs I screamed, hollared, beg, pleaded, and mummbled, but I eventually accepted somethings I'm not going to change.


However your 'problem' is don't let it come between you and a relationship. After time you will relax, picking up some of his habits, and things will settle down into a pattern. You'll eventually learn not to sweat ALL the small stuff.

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