I've got enough reason to suspect my wife is cheating and I'm beginning to toy with the other guy.. now what?

Been married for 2 yrs now. We got married a bit too quickly and I discovered some EXTREMELY untidy habits about her around the house. It looks like the superdome after the hurricane, literally. One day I cleaned it up all by myself, it didnt take 20 min, it took 9 friggin hours, i got caught sleeping at work that night. Now she messed it up all over again. I've tried everything, being polite, putting my foot down, she has a menstrual disorder which she is seeking help for but she still has it so we dont have sex, we're also kinda unofficially separated in a way. She acts hostile towards me a lot and never asks how I'm doing, no matter how nice I am. I looked in her cell phone %26amp; email account and found this guy who took pics of her "dancing" and opening her legs outside OUR apartment door, in the stairs, he wrote in the email his balls were sweating from watching her. Read the additional details below to hear the rest.....

I've got enough reason to suspect my wife is cheating and I'm beginning to toy with the other guy.. now what?
Cut your losses, leave your wife and this guy to their own devices. I would however, find as much evidence about her infidelity (if that were the case), for use during the divorce proceedings in the event things get ugly.
Reply:I would file for divorce. It's obvious she is cheating on you. And you can find a woman who will treat you with respect and love you. That's pretty messed up of her.
Reply:MOVE!
Reply:You are an overfunctioner. You need to let her go, and get out of the relationship as soon as possible.
Reply:get away from this drain on your life





your best revenge on the other guy


is to


let him have her
Reply:get rid of the nasty pig
Reply:whoa
Reply:Well.............it sounds like the marriage is pretty much over. She sounds like a slob, with a lot of problems . I hope you find a lover that suits you more then this woman. good luck ~!!!!!~~~~~~~~~~~~
Reply:you should ask her flat out if she is seeing another guy and depending on her answer and how she answers you . you have a decision to make leave her or get counseling
Reply:Aw, you're not happy and your "wife" is treating you like shi%. I think you should file for divorce. As far as revenge, you may think it will make you feel better but it probably won't. And you don't know if this guy has the potential to be violent.
Reply:Never get your chick where you get your check. Never get your honey where you get your money. Don't ever dip your pen in company ink.
Reply:Nothing could make matters worse..


Confront her..


Tell her that you are about to divorce her and tell her why...
Reply:I would just leave her, forget about revenge. she won't care. I have been through it, i tried revenge, and at the end all she did was leave me for him..
Reply:Plan a day to follow her when she has planes to met this guy and video tape her having an affair. Once you have this tape file for a divorce, you'll get ever thing and she'll be left with nothing. After you file for the divorce front her with the fact that you have proof that she's cheating on you, she'll probably begg you to take her back, telling you that she loves you and she sorry but don't listen to her cause you can't love someone and cheat on them. You deserve someone that will treat you love a king and love you for everthing you are. good luck and I'm truely sorry to her that your going through this.
Reply:I would definitely put his pic %26amp; info. on the gay sight. That is hilarious...


Next, why are you willing to stay with this woman who is cold, cruel, a sloppy pig %26amp; a cheat??? She is telling "you" she has mentrual problems %26amp; can't have sex? Then why can she have sex with this other guy??? Get a divorce on the sly then keep the house %26amp; have her skanky butt thrown out...
Reply:If she can't have sex bc of her 'menstral disorder' how could she be cheating on you? Obviously she is not getting the support she needs from you during this time of illness. It sounds like you work opposite shifts, since you are going in when she is coming out- maybe you should spend more time together and try to work things out.


Make a list of the cleaning duties and split them- maybe she is too overwhelmed by it all.
Reply:Talk to your wife about your concern and tell her to imagine your position. If she does not understand the seriousness of the problem then suggest her to live separately.
Reply:DUMP her. She sounds worthless. She can't clean No sex and she's showing off for other guys Can she at least cook? If she can't I'd say Pimp her out, Take the money hire a hot looking maid. And smile to yourself!!!!
Reply:Why worry about the "other guy", get out of this relationship as fast as you can....after tw o years of a hurried marriage and this is what you get??





The situation your in is not like wine, it WILL NOT get better with time. The "other guy" will get whats coming to him sooner or later, guy like that don't last long, when he finds out that your out of the picture...guess what he gets?? She does not sound like a prize to me, I don't care how good you think the sex is or isn't.





Be the bigger and better man...you will feel better for iit every day.





I don't know how large the town is that you live in, but rest assured that 51% will be women!
Reply:You say you cannot reveal to her about all of this because then she will know about you snooping into her email account and this would make matters worse. How much worse can they get? At this point, I would not even care about the way the information was revealed, I would be concerned with the fact that your wife is obviously cheating on you. You know, sad to say this, but your marriage does not even sound worth saving. To begin with, to work on obtaining a good marriage takes work and determination. It can begiins with two people who have the desire to be happy with each other. From a moral point of view, I see no value of committment placed on the marriage at all. If you are willing to forgive your wife you must also consider if she will be willing to work with you to resolve problems in the marriage, which include infidellity. I believe the trust has been damaged to the point of no repair. I do hope you do what is right for you!
Reply:its seem you should be happy she found some one Else hell i would open the door for this guy then i would air out the house and get a trash can and throw her stuff out you deserve better my frist wife was a pig and man after awhile i blow up everywhere you look she has thing and you couldnt sit down and the day she said she was unhappy i run and open the door and never look back good luck and all of the email and phone check who care you dont need that your peace of mind is so much more important then all of this crap go and put oil on the door hing