What the hell is wrong with me??

I dislike myself. I can't stand the way I look. I feel ugly. I lack self-confidence. I'm terribly afraid of being judged. I think I'm boring and unattractive and eccentric. I sweat profusely and stutter when I'm nervous, whether in public places or during conversations with not-so-close friends or during class presentations. I think this could be social anxiety disorder. This is affecting my relationships. I got to know someone from the net who I really fancy a lot. But I'm too nervous to meet that person. I'm terribly afraid of being judged during our meet-up and worse, rejection. I can't stand this anymore. Why is life so difficult for me?

What the hell is wrong with me??
You're depressed. Go to your doctor and get some anti-depressant medicine or change jobs, if you can get transferred into another part of the state or U.S. and moved to meet different people, a change of scenery will help.





Thanks,





Beverly S.
Reply:u sound kinda like me. social anxiety and low self esteem. not your fault.
Reply:My late husband had social anxioty disorder and to me it sounds like you are suffering the same you need to seek professional help.
Reply:you just verrry unconfident. condfidence is the most important thing about a person so i would defdinatly suggest a therapist to get to the source of the problem.





good luck, i hope you come to realize that everyone is beautiful in their own way. right now, that probbably sounds stupid but you will soon love yourself if you get the correct help.
Reply:You absolutely need to see either a doctor, phychologist, or counselor. You are a wonderful person, I am sure, that possesses many fine qualities. Life will fall into place as soon as you can get your priorities in order and discover what it is that is making you feel this way. Reach out for help, it's out there for you. From then on, it's all in how you put it all together. Start yourself a journal and write in it each day. You will see, after you've found the help you need, that by reading back to where you started, how things did actually fall into place. Good luck!
Reply:go get some zanax and try to chill. life will get better. if you can't do that then try pot
Reply:Have you tried counselling? I think it could really help. You need to set goals for yourself in order to amend the way you see yourself. Set them easy at first. eg Go on a date with someone I like. Set stages for this: pampering yourself, talk to friends about their dates, do some research on interesting places to go, find out what the other person likes to do and talk about. Give yourself a reward when you complete each step. I think you however should consider counselling. Speak to your doctor - they can point you in the right direction. You are finiding it hard to see yourself in the right way and are turning all your points negatively which is such a hard habit to kick. best of luck x
Reply:that sounds alot like me except for the sweating which is social anxiety... the rest of it is from the depression, or in my case MAJOR depression


theres not much you can do except see a doctor, go to councling and take meds (if you dont mind taking them)


sometimes it helps to talk to other people with the same problem, IM me anytime
Reply:Because you have social anxiety and if you don't take your self by a firm hand and realize that you are over reacting then you should see a mental professional. We all have to face rejection in our life's, it's a fact of life.


Life is difficult for you because you are making it difficult. We all have things we don't particularly like about our self's, for me it's my voice, but I have people who say they like it, I remember once my mother saying that she took a bad picture, but then on day realized that must be the way she actually looked. But does this stop us from speaking or walking around feeling ugly?


No, we accept our self for what we are and what we are capable of. You have to stop being sorry for your self, realize that you are just another person/individual who was placed on this earth for a reason. Force your self to speak up, don't worry about how you look etc. Be your self and others will except your for who you are and what you are.
Reply:first u should start loving urself. then look urself in the mirror and say u look beautiful. positive thinking will built selfconfidence. u make good friends. from ur history, I derived that u need lot of counselling on positive thinking. building up "can do" attitude will help u a lot. meet people, never be afraid of them. take them into confidence. not for highly personal matters. From the way u wrote this feeling is the past of your childhood, where ur parents or any other elders would have suppressed u a lot. u r grown up now. cut the ice by talking bravely twice with known people not over net. then u will fly high. No use brooding over it.
Reply:find a good and meaningful and wise thing to do at your free time.





example, chanting and/or listening to the sutras might help too. if you surf the internet, look out for inspirational websites which can lighten your stress.





the point is you are not alone. if you are a female, try a different dress might brighten your day. if you a guy, a new shirt which you like can also help.





life is not perfect. that is why you have to keep on trying to balance the negative and positive things in life.





mercury of love
Reply:I don't know why you dislike yourself so much but I am certain that your dislike of yourself is what is causing your life to be so difficult.





I am certain that you are not ugly. If you dislike the way you look it is because you dislike what is on the inside. Don't you know that what other people think of you is not nearly as important as what you think of yourself?





I both sweat profusely and stutter when I am nervous, as well. I deal with this by trying to stay as calm as possible when going into situations that I know tend to make me nervous.





I think you could benefit from therapy. If you can't afford it then I would at least recommend going to your family doctor and explaining that you think you might be suffering from a social anxiety disorder.





You need to quit isolating yourself. Make friends, embrace the fact that you may be a bit eccentric and use this to your advantage. Get a full length mirror. Stand in front of it and begin to admire yourself. Start with what you know is fine. Concentrate on the positive. Embrace the you that is you and start fixing the things that you feel are broken.
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Reply:Because you tend to romantisize and create ficticious scenerio in your own head about how everyone is better than you are. Which is absolutely not true.





From what you are saying... you are more than likely young, inexperienced socially and have not had much interaction with people in your life so far. Not to mention, someone probably put all this bullsh*it in your head somewhere along the course of your life, as in a father, amother, a guardian, a mentor... whoever? More than likely someone who thought very little of themselves as well but their coping mechanisim was to belittle someone else to get their own power back. Probably you from the sound of things.





All inner turmoil, all pain that any situation of condition causes within us with a condition or situation is the self speking out internally against a negative or false belief. Something inside you wants to grasp hold of your true condition which you know and understand to be the opposite of how you actually feel inside about yourself less these outter influences and opinions. Once a mind is trained to believe in something negative that it knows is not true... in comes the conflict and the panic attacks and the depression and the emotional distress.





You can pack yourself full of all the medication you like and it may help after years of trying out everythng on the market until something clicks... Which is how they actually do it. OR... you can come to terms with the fact that some strong wizard of words taught you something about yourself that was never true and your inner conflict with it is proof that it is not copocetic with how YOU feel INSIDE.





I have a rule in life, taught to me by a very wise man a long time ago.





Take your entire life, and contemplate it... now try and remember every opinion and every feeling you have about anything really... now dissect it, and really ask yourself if these are YOUR opinions or an opinion given to you by someone else.





Either by mockery, lesson, teaching or bullying?





Now... after considering this. Realize that EVERY OPINION AND FEELING YOU HAVE EVER HAD... from this very moment, was a condition, a belief or an ideal or opinion given to you by someone else.





knowing that... stop and reconsider your life. and from THIS MOMENT ON. From this moment forward. Make and create YOUR OWN opinions, your own ideals and your own beliefs all by yourself and all for yourself. Be responsable for your failures and your own accomplishments. Take the credit and the fault for no one BUT YOU!





You'll see amazing changes... I swear!





Good luck to you sweetheart. and remember. YOU are your own creation. and all you have to do to change you... is to listen to you. Something inside you is crying out in opposition against all of this sh*it someone taught you to believe that simply is not true. Lay down the words of the evil wizards in your life and listen to you!





I hate to say it... because I hate her music... but Christina Agulaira is right... "You are beautiful." Don't seek out those who tell you different to cement an incorrect belief system because it is familiar and easier to deal with and dont allow anyone to tell you anything that is not true. YOU decide what is true and what is not.





Undertand that through the process of change. We often seek out things and people, situations and scenerio that may try and revert us backward to what condition we are used to. We will take notice of things we hear, listen to negativity, even on subconscious levels everything we hear and take note of will be your inner dialouge trying to hold on to what it is used to because the ego hates change.





Stick with it, tell yourself you are beautiful and start teaching other people how to treat you as such and all the chips will fall into place and eventually you will have re trained your own brain into the true realization of your own making...





Good luck!
Reply:Im not a doctor but i have experienced some of your symtoms.It does sound like an anxiety disorder,although for you to dislike yourself so much thats not good.I suggest therapy believe me it helps it took me 43 years to finally go for therapy and it has helped me a great deal. You need to be your own best friend in this life.Most people are their worst critics.Figure out the good things about yourself try to focus on the positive and not the negative ok control your mind,dont let it control you ,
Reply:If you stop thinking about the future, fear of judgment will be gone.





And the past isn't a reality, it isn't who you are. Be here %26amp; now.