Stress, i am nearing the end?

well, here it is 1.34am in the morning. I am in a relationship with a lady from nepal. yes she needs residenct to stay here, and i am born and bred aussie. But after 18 months we are still going in circles. I have walked out on her numerous times, only to be found by her at my mums, or the sweet loving character coming out from her. I took up a lease at a shop and have tried to get it going, but she won tlet me. $ months later and the shop has even opened, and she just suffocates me and wants me with her every second on the day outisde of work. I have to marry her, she just lost the high court case thqat cost her 10g's to fight yet again the 4th time and now it is at the sweating stage. i do feel for her, but marriage, i am not sure. She has 2 kids and wants them here in sydney oz. My little shop is 2 streets away from her, she probably wont let me open it if i walk away from her. I have bipolar disorder, and feel very uncomfortable without her, and stressed with her. I have nearly....

Stress, i am nearing the end?
Have her deported back to Nepal. Don't throw your life away over guilt. You feel for her? I'm sure you do. But neither of you will be happy in a relationship based on convenience, guilt and ill behaviors; and it's clear from what you say that you don't love her the way you used to. In the long run, you'll be better off without her. It's clearly a tough call... but maybe you could ease the transition a little bit by arranging some temporary monetary support or something like that. Anyhow... think about yourself. It looks to me that you've already done enough for her, allow yourself to be happy. Cheers.
Reply:leave 'er
Reply:Sounds like you need some sensibility in your life.





Marry her.
Reply:Sounds like you can't live with her and can't live without her. Let her know you need space and that if you marry her, you will commit to one night a week for her, but that the rest of the time you need to do what you need to do. If she is sincere about working with you and you honor your commitments to her, then it could work if you both really want it to. If you doubt that either of you are that willing though, then it's best to end it now for the kid's sake so they don't have to live through constant turmoil.
Reply:Where in Nepal? Let's have tea sometime and I can give you advice face-to-face.
Reply:WOW. YOu need to sit down and talk to her. Get outside advice if needed. Talk alot. Get meds to control the stress and figure out if marriage is what both of you want. good luck.
Reply:Sounds like you 2 arent' exactly the ones for each other. I'd consider not marrying her just because she is in a time crunch. You'll find another if this one passes. Plus, you really need to be able to dedicate yourself to your new shop...it probably needs you more than her, in order to succeed.





Good luck from Minnesota, USA.
Reply:This is tough.. Have you seen a doctor about your illness? You shoud get some medicine for that, to make it easier for you. Also, I know you feel sorry for her, but you can't live your whole life stressed out and you can't just marry her so she can stay there.. you have to love her. Think things over before you act. Best of luck
Reply:I am bipolar also so I know what you mean about stress.


it sounds to me like she is feeling very insecure but once you get married that should change. Now is the time to decide if you want to marry her or not. Don't play around Just do it and get it done.
Reply:I'm usually good at giving advice. This is a circus. You're on a roller coaster ride. Seek out what you want in life. Weigh the good and bad of this relationship. Let her know that she is smothering you and you need time to yourself to breath and be able to establish your business. Confirm your love to her. You can send her flowers with a note in it if you're afraid to say this to her. Don't do something unless "you" really want to. Be Blessed.
Reply:Sweetie, hanging on to her will be like adding water to an already sinking ship. You don't need a relationship that is going to stress you even more than you already are. Truth of the matter is, you probably don't NEED anyone right now. Just follow your heart and dreams and get your shop up and established. After that -- who knows! The woman of your dreams will probably walk into your life and give you the JOY and PEACE you seek!





Best wishes!
Reply:Give it more time, don't rush into anything.